Gentlemen Start Your Engines!
Most women online have one scenario in common when meeting strangers for sex dates. When asking women about their online rendezvous, I hear all too often, “They never deliver what they they say they’re going to do, that enticed me to meet them in the first place.” “Disappointment” is the word of the day, the week, the month, the year. Perhaps that’s because the lines “I want to eat you for hours,” or “I want to fuck you all night long,” just don’t ring true?
This is how it frequently goes. The guy does a search for “female” online in his location of choice and IM’s her. He makes mental notes about her enthusiasm at responding to him, tells her he’s “horny” when she asks how he is <rolling eyes>, gauges her response, and evaluates his chances of “getting lucky.” Then he proceeds with his spiel which he considers to be his finest online seduction. All this in a matter of seconds and within only the first few posts of introducing himself!!! <Gasp>
He gives little to NO consideration to the fact that she might not be compatible, share interests other than sex, have Herpes or anything else infectious. He certainly doesn’t care if she is married or in a relationship. He’s rarely concerned about age, race, or body type, not to mention other risks that he rarely factors in. In fact, all he REALLY cares about is that she has a willing and available pussy. If he determines she’s game, he then expounds in explicit detail, his particular sexual adventure of a lifetime. <LOL> The pathetic thing is, he becomes so adept at this that far too many women fall for his fantasy.
There are so many lonely, emotionally starved women out there, that they equate a GREAT sexual interlude with a total stranger with being fed, if not emotionally, at least physically. But does that fill the hole in their heart? No, me thinks it attempts to fill the other hole which unfortunately, leaves an even greater gaping chasm in the heart.
Problem is, when he actually gets her where he wants her, she finds that his adventure so stimulatingly described in text, comes no where near to the actual experience.
She comes away with feelings that are most likely ALL on the negative side of the spectrum. She feels used, inadequate, slutty, unlovable, dirty, and empty. Not only is she disappointed in herself and the experience, but she also realizes she has been deceived and defrauded. He had lied about his exceptional abilities and she felt like a complete fool for ever have believed him.
On the other hand, the guy seems thrilled with his date, exhibits no apparent residual negative feelings, and has validated the fact that he is the “stud of the universe” once more. With this renewed self-satisfaction, he moves on to repeat this method of approach to recreate yet another gratifying but empty sexcapade. He has NO idea that he has personified the stereotype that men are pigs, think with their dicks, have no feelings, and are for the most part, disappointing lovers ta boot!
But is he REALLY happy? Is he REALLY satisfied? If he’s not happy or satisfied, could it be that empty, soulless sex is not all it’s cracked up to be? Could he be repressing a smattering of guilt that he might be aiding to the carnage of the human spirit? And isn’t he passing up all opportunities of meeting someone who could be important to him through this destructive behavior?
Many men are promising things that they can’t possibly manifest and are perpetuating insidious disappointment. Not only are they are seriously contributing to the demise of gaining random acts of sex with willing and available women, but they are continually acting out this predatory behavior with little or no awareness that they are contributing to the ongoing malaise of good women around the globe.
Without judgment here though, and for that man who sincerely doesn’t want to swim in the predatory gene pool but still wishes to get random acts of sex under his belt, let’s be different, and figure out how he can be more successful at getting what he needs and wants, without all the aforementioned detrimental behaviors.
First of all, it is sad but true that many women equate sex with love. By NOT taking advantage of that fact, is where the “gentleman” enters in. A gentleman knows the SECRET. He knows that he can get what he needs and wants by bringing out the “sublime femininity” in a woman.
Secondly, he knows that the innate nature of most women is to please, adore, love, and cherish her man. Gentlemen know that their counterparts respond to kindness, caring, affection, sincerity, and chocolates! <giggles>
Now, I realize that a random sex date is not fodder for producing the advent of loyalty, nor is it the intent of even creating the hope of more than just sex. But if a man treats a woman with the respect she needs, does it not then stand to reason that he will be more likely to get what he seeks, AND without all the negative consequences illustrated in the scenario?
What if, just what if he IM’s her with respect, caring, kindness, and sincerity? Why not empower the gentleman within, get what you need but do it in a positive manner where honoring the human psyche is part of the objective? And maybe the experience will be more fulfilling and might ultimately offer more than just biological sex.
Did you ever wonder how and why some ugly guys get dates with incredibly beautiful women? Gee, what a concept!