Relationships
Relationships: Dating. Relating to people. Relating to the opposite sex. Trying to understand the other messages that they might be saying. Trying to understand the words that you are actually hearing.
Relationships: Confusion. Misunderstanding. Anger. Resentment. Hurt. Pain. Sorrow. Loss. Highs. Lows. Feeling like you could fly one moment, then crashing into hell the next.
Relationships: Growth. Growing up. Maturity. Being vulnerable. Being hardened. Feeling let down. Feeling pulled up. Feeling loved one moment, and then being dumped the next. Loving someone who doesn’t love you back or being loved by someone that you don’t love.
Relationships: they make you bloom at your best or they sink you to the lowest of low.
Who needs them??
We do. We all do. We need the connection with other human beings. We need to offer love and we need to receive love. We need to hug and kiss and embrace. We need to make love. We need tender caresses and an understanding touch. We need to use our hands and our lips and our mouths. We need to allow the goodness and hope that Love brings to flow through our blood.
Yes, we all need them.
We all crave them.
We all want a good one.
We’ve all had bad ones.
We’ve sworn off them and raged at them. We’ve vowed to never again let someone “do that” to us.
We’ve pushed ourselves towards some who wanted nothing to do with us or who wasn’t good for us at all. We’ve stayed with bad ones, let good ones go and wondered why we’re so fucked up.
We’ve also let someone love us and see us for ourselves. We’ve also been there for others who have had a guard up because they too, don’t want to get hurt anymore. The cycle goes on and on.
Can the hurt in relationships stop? Probably not. Though it has been said over time that one learns to not expect so much and to depend on one’s self more than depending on another.
Will we stop needing relationships? No. But for some of us, our dependency turns from complete dependence on that other someone to make our lives complete to learning how to mend and fill our own holes.
Can relationships help heal us if it’s been a relationship that has hurt us? Yes. It’s funny how that works but love from one can help with the loss of love from another. But here again, one can’t turn to another person to make better something that one has experienced with someone else. Our own healing still has to come from inside ourselves.
What if you’re too scared to love again? You miss out on more pain as well as missing out on more love. Some things are black and white to understand.
Relationships. They make you feel hope again. We need them. We need each other. Yes, they’re hell at times but they’re also the joy from which we feel whole. Don’t give up or give in.