Push-button sex got you down?
Hey, guys? You know all about the clitoris, right? And with all the hoopla in recent years about that infamous "G-spot," you probably have a pretty good idea by now about which buttons to push to drive any woman to pinnacles of erotic pleasure.
But you know, that admittedly helpful knowledge can become a problem. Too often, it leads to push-button sex. Limited. Predictable. Automatic.
Those buttons don't even work all the time, either. The truth is, there's way more engine behind them than two little push-buttons can manage. And the fact is, that's a good thing. A very good thing.
It's good because, once you realize what you're dealing with, the sky's the limit. Forget the old race-car analogy; we're talking rockets.
The first thing you need to know is that all of us, male and female, start out as fetuses with EXACTLY THE SAME equipment. After a couple of months, male fetuses start to produce testosterone, and the original genital tissue is rearranged to form a penis. Female fetuses still have all the same tissue; it's just arranged differently.
This means two things. First, the 6,000 to 8,000 nerve endings that pleasure the entire penis are also present—and concentrated—in the much smaller nub (technically, the glans) of the clitoris. This makes the clit the most exquisitely sensitive organ in the human body.
Second, it means that all the erectile tissue that's wrapped up in the man's penis is strategically, and very effectively, deployed throughout the woman's pelvic area. Better yet, it's all interconnected. So the more of it you engage, arouse, and engorge, the bigger the response.
Here's where the clit comes in. Most women don't like to have those erectile parts messed with until they're at least partly engorged. It doesn't feel good—in fact, it can be downright irritating. It can definitely kill the mood.
The clit is so supremely sensitive, though, the slightest, gentlest caress can start the ball rolling. Follow it to the vaginal lips (labia). The outer labia cover two large areas of erectile tissue on either side of the vaginal opening; those connect with the clit, and stimulating one works on the other, as well. Also beneath the outer labia, the inner labia are delicate and erectile in their own right, like the clit.
But there's a lot more to the clitoris than meets the eye. Hidden beneath the visible head is a shaft that extends an inch or so deeper inside, where it splits at the base to wrap around the vagina. More nerves connect it to another major area of erectile tissue, which runs alongside the vagina.
This is the home of the G-spot. Actually, it's not a "spot" at all, and despite what you may have read, it certainly isn't the size of a dime. It's a sheath of spongy erectile tissue that surrounds the urethra (the tube that empties the bladder) and protects it during intercourse.
The structure has plenty of nerve endings, too. As arousal makes it swell, you may be able to stimulate it further through the front wall of the vagina. The area to try—call it the G-spot if you want—is anywhere from one to three inches inside the vagina. It should firm up and protrude a bit during sex, but you should be able to find it easily enough anytime. Just feel along the vaginal lining (in the direction of the belly button) till you find a textured area—it feels a bit like corduroy.
If you expect to use it as an instant joy button, though, think again. The area has got to be at least partially engorged before you hit the spot, or it can morph into an off switch.
Yet another thick pad of erectile tissue lies beneath the rear wall of the vagina. As you can see, lots of erotically susceptible erectile stuff is packed into the female pelvis, supported by the extra blood supply and strong pelvic muscles needed to make babies. All working together and intimately connected by a network of nerves.
In button-pushing terms, you can sure get things started with the clit, and you can even drive it on home without touching anything else. But if you take the time to warm things up, arouse more of the hidden parts (rub, massage, press—gently—these things are deep inside), you'll have more of the system responding.
At this point, try the G-spot. Just remember, it's not an "orgasm button." As with the clit, the idea is to coax it, tease the blood into it. Now you've got it . . . keep it going, get all the parts going, get all those hidden parts full and hot and swollen . . .
NOW you see the difference between a push-button orgasm and a full-system, whole-body ORGASM! May take a little longer to set up, but hey—a rocket launch takes time, too. If you want to get to the moon, it's the way to go.
Gentlemen, we have lift-off!