Heed the Warning Signs
There is a man I know who wonders if he is a sex addict. I’ve heard of such a thing and once saw a documentary about it but I’ve never come across a self-proclaimed one. He just can’t stop asking out pretty girls and they don’t stop throwing themselves at him. He said the amount of sex that is offered to him daily is unbelievable.
I believe him on this. He’s compact in body, radiates sexuality, is really awfully cute and has a charming way about him that is hard to define.
“Stay away,” I would tell any girlfriend of mine who’d want to be the one to attain his interest.
He drives himself crazy with all the girls. He is always balancing at least two at the same time while others pop in and out on a frequent basis. Sometimes it frustrated him. “Why am I doing this?” he groans and he bends forward, holding his head. Then, at other times, he looks at me with a wicked grin and says, “God, it’s so easy...and I’d be stupid not to accept what comes my way from a pretty girl,” he said.
Last week came the day where he broke off with one girl to pave the way for another, only to find out that the girl he’d hoped to be with had gone out and slept with his best friend, after finding out that she had been one of many. His reaction to this? “I can’t take her back now because I couldn’t trust her,” he said with finality. I looked at him and said: “You’ve got to be kidding, right? After all that you’ve done to her? ” And okay, he was honest when he responded and said: “Yeah, but that’s different,” but I still wanted to pick him up by the scruff of his neck and shake him.
Maybe he is a sex addict and maybe he isn’t. Being only in his mid-twenties and having been rarely turned down by girls, perhaps he’s only doing what some twenty-something year-old men do. But I do know enough to recognize that the feelings of hurt that he leaves across the way are far too many. He acknowledges this at the same time that he shrugs it off. “I know, and that really bothers me sometimes, but to be truthful, no one if forcing them to be with me,” he said. True enough.
This is where I’d like to remind women of all ages to hone their listening and intuition skills. Guys like this one can cause an awful lot of confusion to an empathetic girl. He makes each girl feel that she is special to him and I can’t imagine any female (no matter what her age) not being attracted to that. But the pain is so not worth it. Let someone else take him on, if they must. As for you, you are making better choices now. Pay close attention, heed the warning signs and then move on.