Giving Yourself A Chance
So here it is, the weekend is almost upon you and you still haven’t met someone that you feel comfortable enough with to spend any significant amount of time with. Your personal ad has been up and running for a little while now and you’ve responded to everyone who has contacted you.
You thought this would be easy, that it would be like snapping your fingers. When you first started out, your thinking was: “So many people! This will be easy!” But then you found it didn’t quite go that way. And now that some time has passed, you wonder if you’re doing anything wrong. You may even be feeling some discouragement. Don’t worry. This is a normal part of the process of online dating. And just as in real life, online dating takes time. There’s no snapping the fingers when getting to know someone.
There are a surprising number of people who think that just posting a personal ad means just sitting back and letting people find you. Online dating requires more of a commitment than that. Oftentimes it means putting yourself out there in a way that may be a little different than you are used to, while at the same time it offers you a chance to express yourself in a way that perhaps the people who know you best, may not even guess about you. Don’t forget, just by being a SexyAds member, you are saying that you like and enjoy sex. That alone can give you a different perspective in expressing yourself. I don’t think there’s a single person who comes to SexyAds who doesn’t like sex!
Sometimes it’s worth the time to go back to what you’ve written in your profile and look at it from a couple of different angles. Were you being too general and perhaps saying something that everyone else does? Did you swing too far the other way and perhaps come across as cocky or arrogant in an attempt to appear confident? We all make mistakes like that when we’re trying to appear our best to a potential new friend but in the end, it’s really not the best way to be.
Some online personal dating sites have heavy restrictions in what you should say and even set it up so that they are doing most of the talking for you. With SexyAds, you have the freedom and the luxury to be as honest and open and as direct as you are comfortable being. If it’s a straight hook-up that you are looking for, then you can write that. If there’s a fantasy that you’ve always dreamed about and are now feeling like you are closer to acting upon it, you can write about that. If you’re just starting over you can write about that; and if you’re not sure what you’re looking for, you can write about that, also.
Discouragement comes in cycles and always passes. Keep positive, be patient and give yourself a chance. Aren’t you worth it?