Attraction at Work
When you’re attracted to someone who is attracted to you back, sparks are felt and you feel happy. When you’re attracted to someone who isn’t attracted to you back, sparks are felt and they burn. When you’re attracted to someone who isn’t attracted to you and you see them every day, and you watch them become visibly attracted to someone else and you wish they reacted to you in that way, you’re probably at work.
Attraction at work. A more than two-edged sword that offers you both smiles and pain. So many smarts have to be made when it comes to making a decision to get involved with someone at work that it just might be plain easier not to do it at all.
Right. Like saying “no” to chocolate is easy.
Don’t a lot of us want what we are immediately told we can’t have? Does anything ever look more appetizing then when someone says: “Nope, you can’t have that?” Why can’t I have that? I’d like to know.
If you get involved with someone at work, others are going to know. The first delusion is thinking that you’ll be able to keep it a secret but you can’t keep physical reactions a secret all the time. Others will see you’re going in the back room to talk more often than anyone else or going to the rest room more often and coming out looking primped; or laughing too much, or not talking much after you’d been talking….you might even end up smiling less because you are so intent on no one finding out.
It’s a lot of work sleeping with someone you work with.
And get this-people do blabber. They do. I hate saying it, I hate admitting it, but it’s true. You just might tell one person who would never tell but if it’s at work, I guarantee you that it will come out. That’s because even the one person you tell has just one person that they tell and things just go on from there.
Unless you two are the best actors in the world, your own faces and behavior will tip people off.
I can’t count the number of men I’ve been attracted to over the years that I’ve met at various jobs. It becomes this game, this emotional game that starts making your mornings tough and your stomach tighten. You go from anticipating seeing them to tense that you are going to see them. In my case, nothing happened 99.99 percent of the time. Did it matter? No, because I would suffer as I watched them flirt with others, paying attention to other girls. It made me feel bad.
Even though you may not actually go to bed with someone that you work with, it doesn’t mean that your emotions aren’t going to be all over the place. Since that might affect your performance in a negative way, it would be prudent to reconsider any desire you have in thinking of crossing the line.