Why do married men never get any from their wives?
Sherrann: I have several emails everyday from married men who want to hook up, I'm not that judgmental and really care that these men are married and fooling around I just don't get why they are getting any at home? it does make you wonder if they are just not good in bed, I was married for over 20 yrs and he knew what it took to turn me on and make it almost impossible to say no even when I wasn't in the mood, or mad about something until it got so bad we just stayed mad all the time, can a married man or single man help me with this question.
Chris909: Not getting any at home .. is mostly BS. I'm betting most married men do get sex at home. For some it is a grass is always greener thing, for others it is (despite commitment) wondering and trying to do something about the wonderful diversity of women out there, still others just never seem to get enough. I also suspect that there are many stable long-term relationships where the sex drives are sufficiently un-equal that one partner or the other starts looking outside (isn't that what most folks are doing here?).
One final point.. men often have trouble talking about their relationship problems.. it may be easier to find someone else without the history and start 'exciting new' relations rather than deal with the one they have.
chasenbeavers: Why do you ask? I get plenty but I somewhat agree with one of the replies, the grass is greener theory, but that really isn't all of it. Think back to your dating life, when you would stay up and have sex all night long knowing you would be dead on your feet the next day just because you could. You would experiment with sex and learn all that made your partner make the O Face!!! Then you get married and I guess you start to taking sex for granted; your not fully in the mood, you have to get up early, the kids are awake, etc. (Life happens and you fall into routine knowing that there will be time later, but when you are dating you just don't know if there will be time later.) If we as couples acted as if tomorrow may never come then relationships would be very different. That is just my thought on the matter
pervert56: I DO get sex from my wife, BUT, I have to start it EVERY time!! I'm not an aggressive guy and don't enjoy initiating sexual encounters all the time. I go looking for exciting women who know what they want and how to take it. I'm VERY much in love with, but also love sexually controlling women.
Yes, we have had many conversations about this and as was stated in another response, nothing ever changes. I don't think many men or women go out looking for someone BETTER than their spouse. We just want a different agenda.
Play on Larry
playa4u:I have been with my wife for ten years, its not that I don't get sex, its just not enough. When we do have sex it is always great , some times a quickie or sometimes a really hot session . I feel some people have different sex drives and its not a male or female thing. For me having sex 3 or 4 times a month just isn't satisfying enough. I am more experimental and my wife is more conservative or shy with a dirty side . I have tried to explore other avenues but real life , kid, work slip in the way , and I totally understand that because I experience the same situations, but If I want to turn to her as the escape for both of our everyday life's, and then she just doesn't show interest that just sucks. So as an end result we end up having good sex when She is feeling it . P.S. I wine , dine, take out, provide for and cook. So now I am hear searching for somthin extra and fun, .. Any thoughts?
happytongue4u: For some it's the not enough sex deal and for other its just the adventure of something new and for others its what ones spouse will not do or doesn't like to do. I love to please my wife with the lick but she doesn't like it that much but it does get her off but sometimes you feel like eating a muffin and other time you don't. what we all fall under is needs and wants and if they are not met then we start looking around for them. Does that make us bad people?? I like BJ just as much as eating her, doesn't mean I have to do it 24/7 maybe at least 4 times a week I keep it real.
forest18c: With both of us working and two kids it seams that my wife is just not interested or not in the mood. We do have sex and I'm assuming its good for both parties but every other month is not enough for my liking. As for the love aspect, I'm not looking for love. I have a wife that I love deeply. I'm just looking to have a lustful no-strings relationship that satisfies both parties.
playa4u: You really are not looking for love , I have that at home and wouldn't change that. I have heard the same scenario from women too that are not getting enough passion and ecstasy at home so they look else where. I think that most of the time its a mutual no strings attached situation. as long as both are married. lets face it every person has a different level of sexual fulfillment no matter what age, sex, race or personal situation.
Dsex: Alot of the replies on here I tend to agree with... I have a high sex drive and my wife used to. We have been married for only 3 years and sex has gone from everyday to 2-3 times a week to once a month or two. I always have to initiate it and to me, that has gotten old and it doesn't help when I initiate and get turned down. As I have now looked to find it elsewhere.
I don't feel as though I'm bad in bed, she has never made me feel that way and I have never had that response from previous relationships, even after they were dissolved I have been told that they miss the good sex. (I'm friends with my ex-wife and she still tells me that).
Even though I still love my wife, it's not all about having sex daily to me... I need variety as well. I have fantasies that she cannot fulfill... I like to experiment and she doesn't.... er, well not anymore...
There could be a million reasons why one strays... But you cannot stereotype men only in the end, cause there are plenty of married women on these sites looking for the same
Dsex: With that said, men could ask, "Why do women stop wearing makeup after they get married?" Or "Why do women gain weight after they get married?" etc...
But we don't. *wink*
playa4u: You Got That Right Bro!!! Its not just men that are cheating. We ARE Humans first , Sexes Second. *thumbs up*
LoadedTamale: It is my opinion that that once married, a woman places sex on the same list as an oil change, "to get done". All jokes aside ... Once married a man spends less time with his buddies, less time on hobbies and all his spare time with his wife. A wife see her man differently. Because of this "he" is always around. I don't think women realize that by making their husbands spend so much of their time with them, that the attraction and desire to be close (in the form of sex) gets diluted by the constant companionship. I love my wife to no end and can bring her to orgasm after orgasm in just a few minutes every time. But, if I "get lucky" with my wife 5 or 6 times a year these days ... it is a good year. And we have only been married for 6 years.
What's disappointing is she tells everyone how great sex is at home. I'm in Florida...look me up
thatsbeentaken: I can see where you are coming from. That is such a shame to hear though. I am in the same boat as you guys only as a woman. As you said it, If I "get Lucky" it's once a month or so. How do we make those changes without being somewhere like this as married people? It saddens me that this is how our relationships developed....after 13 years of this I am fed up!
nomorefansplease: My husband gets it all the time from me, but then I have no complaints. He's a fantastic lover. I do think it is a shame if couples can no longer enjoy being intimate together. While sex is not the most important thing it is important nonetheless.
casualfreak2000: maybe its not about intimacy or problems at home, but lust. Some people just need to have more fun with others, but can go home and be normal! just an observation.
luckystars: We get it but just want much more because it's so good. Our sex is great but infrequent because she's usually pissed off. What women don't seem to understand is that the human body needs to be washed, fed, and fucked (sucked also) regularly. For some reason when they're mad they just can't say, "Well it's time for bed, we'll fight tomorrow. Let's go fuck and suck each other silly."
hugyulickyu: She's lovely - but she wont play or experiment - it got boring. I should leave her? No! Why? I still love her. Sex isn't everything in a relationship. She may be screwing elsewhere I don't know - I don't ask. PS My masturbating technique has really improved - sigh. OK...a joke thrown in but in all honesty the above is true.
friskyoldman1: my wife said I'm a workaholic of course she wants everything) she had a long sexual affair said my fault she was lonely.....use to say I was great in the sack now says I'm terrible can't keep it up wonder why? married and horny and rarely gets any I'm not begging for it
mnumber: guess at 33 I am willing to beg a little. But man it is sad to think you go from fucking all the time to saying "fuck you" all the time. When I said I do, I never thought it would be like this. Marriage counseling didn't even help.